Thursday 22 March 2012

A Reflexology Guide for the Wary

As a complementary therapist I will admit that I'm guilty of assuming everyone knows what reflexology is and about all the treatments I offer. I'm also guilty of explaining reflexology in terms of the feet mirroring the body systems, working through meridians or energy lines and other terms that create those glazed over eyes. Many people know its to do with feet (and if you didnt, yes, it is usually foot related), however beyond this there's usually varying ideas.

I ofen offer reflexology tasters, which I think is a good way of showing people what reflexology is about. When I do this, I usually meet two camps of people: the first love their feet being touched and played with and would be happy to sit there all day; the second group of people hate even the thought of getting their socks or shoes off, let along anyone even touching their feet. I have to confess that I orginally fell into the second camp of people – I hated the idea of anyone tickling my feet and would see me tensing up even at the thought of the idea. I also once nearly kicked a student therapist in the head for trying to hold my foot too gently. So, what changed my mind?

I went for a massage, and had about ten minutes of reflexology on my feet. As she even touched my foot the whole relaxation of the massage went out of the window, but, after a few minutes I found I was relaxing again. It really wasn't what I was expecting; yes, there were some sensitive spots, but they weren't overly ticklish and it really was quite bearable. After that I did have a few more reflexology tries, trained in reflexology and found myself having monthly regular treatments!

So, after the consultation, what actually happens during a reflexology session? It starts off with a massage to relax your foot, get blood flowing more to the surface and to check the mobility of your feet. Then, a set sequence begins where the therapist uses pressure on various points and moves her thumb (not lightly!) throughout the sole of the foot. I usually tell apprehensive people that if I tickle them they're more than welcome to kick me, as I know how bad that tickly fear can be!

If you've got ticklish feet, then I would say to expect some tension at the beginning: you don't know what you've let yourself in for and you're really challenging your fears about what you're expecting. Once you realise its not a purposeful tickle, you should find yourself beginning to relax into the treatment (unless you're not accustomed to relaxing, which means it could take a few sessions to get your body into the idea). There may be some sensitive areas but this can be your body's way of protecting the area or highlighting a possible underlying issue. For example, if you have sensitivity on the ball of your foot it may be related to a lingering cough, chest complaint, asthma, even tight muscles in the chest region.

The treatment begins on one foot and then the other foot is worked. After this you may find some areas are treated again. This means the therapist found some areas that they felt needed to be worked further. After this there is likely to be further work on both feet. If at any point something is unbearable, you should tell your therapist and they will take appropriate action. Some people like to relax during the treatment and tell the therapist about any sensitive areas at the end of the session. It's important for you to remember you're a paying client and you talk if you want or close your eyes and relax if that's what you'd prefer – your therapist should be led by you. You usually know the treatment is coming to an end as the therapist may use cream and will probably end with a massage.

And thats it – all over! You may feel relieved to have confronted such a personal fear and you may be very relaxed. The therapist will probably tell you any areas picked up on that related to your body (maybe your neck was stiff or your digestive felt a little sluggish). They will also provide aftercare, such as drinking water.

Hopefully you should find your experience changes your view about having your feet touched; and if that worry about how your feet look still stops you, don't worry, most feet arent perfect and a therapist is used to it! So there you go, what to expect from a reflexology visit, without the usual explanations, but, if you do want to know more about the theory, meridians and benefits of reflexology then try booking an appointment with a reflexologist and ask them!




Monday 12 March 2012

Birthday thoughts

What is it about March? Or more the point, the 9 1/2 months before March? It seems there's loads of women giving birth at the moment! I can't criticise though, because I have two children born in March - I also couldnt tell you what the relevance of the mid year was either...This week sees my big little boy turn 5 and I'm not quite sure where the time went.

People always say your children are different, but I automatically assumed my second child was sure to be Damien, because my first actually pretty good. Well, it turned out my second child is pretty different, but only because somehow he's got a bit more of a mischevious nature to him, but you know what, he's actually also pretty good (maybe I should wait until he's walking properly & talking before I cast judgements, but I think we're going to be ok).

So, as a mum of two what have I learnt? If you're going to buy a good present, my best, biggest piece of advice is to buy a Mamas & Papas teddy. My first had a Monty Monkey (which is still his best teddy & was chosen by him). When my second son was born, he was given Percy Pony as a present from his big brother. The funny thing is, I've caught him putting this teddy over his head, chewing the ear (Monty's tail got chewed a long time ago) & generally throwing him around in the same affectionate way. What is the reason? I really dont have a clue, all I know is that both of my kids seem to love these things!

I've also learnt there's no point comparing your children. Each do things at different times & if you're like me, you've probably forgotten half of the things your child did at what age anyway. Absolutely every child is unique and we should always remember that.

So, as my eldest turns five & my youngest is about to turn one, I'm wiping my eyes & yet again wondering where the years have gone. As someone who was never very maternal I'm actually very grateful to my children for being pretty laid back & not being whiny and annoying very often....So, if my eldest son ever reads this one, Happy Birthday sweet, & if the younger one ever does: with only 11 days (& a few years) difference, Happy Birthday to you too sweet!

Wednesday 7 March 2012

How Do You Do It?

I often get asked how do I do it all & while I know I'm stretching things at times I do feel I have a good balance....well, if you want a few hints, try some of these..

I have absolutely no idea what the current live show tv programme is, what Saturday night tv consists of or who any of the younger 'celebrities' are. While I would love to see some more factual & documentaries, my daily intake of Peppa Pig, The Crystal Maze & Ooglies prevents this. This gives me more time to sit on my laptop & clear my emails.

I find multitasking really helpful. I can quite easily make a work colleague call while cleaning work surfaces, brushing the floor, cleaning the bathroom etc.

Getting up at 6.30am gives you a bit of a headstart with the day & means you dont have to rush around so much. If you dont have children you may want to try meditating, but personally my meditation is the 10 seconds as I wake up & work out what day we're on & what I'm doing.

There are only so many hours in the day, so if you can't multitask cleaning, then dont bother. If this is a real issue for you, try watching The Life of Grime & you'll soon realise you'll never be that bad. My motto is that 'a clean house is an indication you really dont have a life'.

Think there's not enough hours in the day? I think that the little mantra 'I have plenty of time' is helpful for this. If you really want to do it, you'd probably find time, & if you don't, it will probably wait for you (my accounts are very kind at obliging on this one).

I have found switching to a daily diary useful. Suddenly my days are even more filled up than usual, as I'm now booking in more clients not realising I'm already pretty busy for that particular week.

I make sure I spend quality time with my children at least once a week. We have family days & make sure that we all get together to do something. We dont live to work & it's important to remember it.

And on a serious note, I practice self care: I ensure I have regular treatments, I use my essential oils & I make sure I take time out if  I think I need it. If I'm not able to look after my children, run my groups, see my clients & arrange business events then I'm not much use to anyone - least of all myself.

So remember that you have 24 hours every day & it's always fun to see how much you can  fit into it when you try...just remember to keep a few hours for yourself every so often!

Friday 2 March 2012

10 tips for finding a suitable complementary therapist

1.What do you want? If you're not sure have a chat with your therapist and they should be able to help you. They may be able to produce a combination treatment in order to accommodate your needs.

2.Don't expect a same day appointment. You may find a therapist only works particular days, or will be unable to take a call or answer an email if they have several appointments booked.

3.If you've never had a particular treatment and you're not sure about it, consider going to a pamper evening or Mind Body and Soul show where you can experience taster treatments. Alternatively, book a treatment you do like and ask the therapist if they can shorten it and include a 15minute taster of the one you're interested in.

4.Make sure the therapist is qualified. There are lots of different qualifications and membership bodies and if it's not on their website, just ask them. You can then do a quick web search if you want to check any of the details or standards.

5.Be aware that a beauty treatment is often not the same as an holistic one. If you go for a beauty aromatherapy massage you will probably experience a set massage sequence using a pre-blended aromatherapy oil. If you go to an holistic therapist offering aromatherapy or clinical aromatherapy, then you should find that the oils will be blended specifically for you – check that you will be getting what you're expecting!

6.If you are planning to see your therapist regularly, consider they may be able to offer you a discount for block bookings eg: book 5 and get 1 free. You will probably have to book and pay for your appointments in advance so it can be an expensive, but it will ensure you complete the course and, if you do have the money to hand, will give you a free treatment.

7.Beware of therapists pushing you into more frequent treatments than you need. If you have a particular condition or you're trying to get to the root of a problem, then it may well be that weekly treatments are recommended for a while, but these should not be indefinitely. Ask the therapist to give you an idea of how long weekly treatments are likely to be needed for – remember, that a treatment less regularly is better than no treatment at all, so if that's all you can afford, be honest!

8.Ask a friend if they can recommend a therapist but remember that what you're looking for may be different to what they like. Also, if you're looking for a particular specialism, ask a therapist. It may be that they can help directly or recommend another therapist who may be more suited to your needs.

9.A therapist should have your best interests at heart. If they're not willing to share their knowledge with you, then why should you give them your money? While you shouldn't expect them to give you a full consultation without suggesting a proper appointment, you shouldn't expect them to be guarded or protective about offering a small piece of information or providing a complete service during your treatment.

10.Like your therapist! You may only talk to them a little, but there should be a rapport. Likewise, there's no point going to a therapist you like but who isn't actually helping you.

My First Blog

Well, to get with the 21st Century I thought it was time to look at blogging. It's something I've avoided like the plague for quite a long time, but it seems that that time is now over...Why? Well, because apparently this is the way things are going, people apparently dont have enough hours in the day & want to spend hours reading different things on the internet. Personally, I already dont have enough hours in the day, so I dont really get time to trail through the internet looking for all those interesting articles - I have enough books in my house that havent made it in front of my face yet.
So there you go, my first go at writing, not expecting it to go very far but I need to cut my tooth somewhere, especially while I'm trying to work out what the heck I should be doing...If you have read it - thank you!
ps - I meant to share it on google + but have somehow +1'd it instead...that says it all about my technological know how!